This blog is dedicated to the person that posted on his page the question entitled, ‘Why do bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people?’
People have more places these days to look for answers in their lives. One of these places being the internet; in particular Facebook. Well, as many of you do, I always seem to be looking at it while I’m in a rush. I happen to see the question above as a post that I rushed by in hesitate. I said a brief prayer and kept moving but the question stuck with me because I had asked God the same question 6yrs earlier. It was in regards to me being forced to divorce my husband.
You might ask how are you forced to divorce? Well, I was brought up in a Christian home and divorce was … never an answer or option to problems in a marriage. So, I probably stayed longer than I should have out of a moral dilemma of being a Christian, a role model, and the right that my children had to having a whole family. This weighted heavily on my mind and spirit. I always stood in a position of forgive and forget; and love covers a multitude of sins. It was my Christian duty; I owed it to my children… I owed it to myself to make sure I was doing the right thing.
So, I prayed, fasted and sought counsel and refused to give up on the marriage. The counselor advised me to divorce him, but that wasn’t in my plan. It had to work I was a Godly woman! I was good on purpose. But would I be Godly enough to do what God had instructed me to do? Well, God answered me with a question, ‘Gena, do you love him enough to leave him?’ This is not what I wanted to hear; I wanted God to fix it. I had heard and read in the bible how God hated divorce. I went to my husband and asked him what part did I play in his behavior? Maybe thinking altruistically that if I took the blame than I could repent and God would heal my marriage. My husband who I had dearly loved answered, ‘Oh, you did nothing to provoke my behavior.’ That’s not what I wanted to hear. That answer could not fix the problem. I pressed in harder, ‘surly there was something I did to cause you to treat me and our family in this manner. He replied; ‘No… No you did nothing wrong, you.. you were a good wife.’ That did not compute! I told him that it didn’t make sense, ‘you don’t treat good people like this!’ He replied that’s who I am. I was crushed. Why, didn’t I see this coming? I could not fix this it was beyond me. I asked why didn’t you tell me this before I married you; his reply was I wanted you too and you would not have married me. I told him, ‘I was not given a choice; I would never have choose this for myself or my family.’ Something I thought that had happen a few times was now the foundation of my marriage and family.’ Who was he? Who was I? What was our marriage? We were both Pastors in a church for 11years…
Now the answer from God of, ‘do you love him enough to leave him’ resounded in my ears as well as 30years of marriage and our family that meant nothing to him. My husband salvation weighed in the balance… I could not understand, so I went back to God with the above question, His answer for help and understanding. God told me that He had to honor my prayers every time my husband failed. My prayers became a net that prevented him from falling to the ground and forcing him to lookup to God to change his life. God, said Gena you prayed for 30years and he is unchanged, it means it didn’t work. Give him to me now so that I can work on him. You can’t save him but I have and can save him. This is when I found out that God is a God to the good and the bad; Jesus died for him as well as me.
The answer to my Facebook friend on his page is this: You posted this a day or so ago. I did not respond, but I softly said a prayer because I thought I did not have time. I cam back to it because I felt convicted; suppose I was the only one who could answer, but I just walked away? I don’t know if you saw my response or not but, I wanted you to know that God cares and He does answer why. Here is what I posted in response to your question:
Q: Why do bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people?
God is not in control of the bad… TO BE CONTINUED……
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