Difficult Childhoods Shouldn’t Lend Themselves to Difficult Adulthoods

Joy, despair or somewhere in the middle...
Joy, despair or somewhere in the middle…

One thing that I have found in my journey of life is that we grow up chasing time. Then time begins chasing us, until we are caught. But the in-between time is where we come to appreciate and even love time. Nothing lasts forever–even though we try to live like this life lasts forever.

It’s like eating your favorite cookie. No matter how small the bites there will always be one last bite and then the end. But it’s not really the end… is it? The memories are what trumps time spent in something’s or someone’s absence. Memories can put you in a time warp, sometimes paralyzing you so that you can’t go forward in life, leaving you without a future or even hope…

I thank God for time. Some people see time as God’s curse. I see time as God’s mercy, comforting us with the fact that troubles will not last forever and there is an end to pain.

Some adults are stuck in their childhoods, locked in their memories of pain. It becomes a bad place within that they visit often and cannot seem to change. Sadly they end up wasting precious time trying to repair a childhood experience as an adult, thereby missing out on the joys their adulthood.

Your spouse is not your mother or father… stop making them pay for your parent’s wrongs, stop seeking retribution for your pain. They don’t owe you a life. You owe life a life worth living. The little child within clinging tight-fisted to the memories of who and what that hurt you, you must not remain as such. Crying as adults over the pains of a childhood lost in time–it’s as if you don’t realize that time has granted you distance from what caused your woes. You’re not there anymore and most importantly the situation that hurt you is no longer there. Don’t keep recreating it in every new relationship because you choose the past over the present, dooming your future.

The people who hurt you are not even here any more and you are letting them control you from the past. Don’t be a victim to your past, be a victor of your present and an overcomer to your future.

You are looking for someone to validate your pain but your very survival of it is all the validation you need.

Baby, you are free only when you let go of it and put the child within in the proper place. The little child within in you does not live there anymore nor does it have the right to. The cookie is gone. The grace of God has ended that time as a child and given you new experiences as an adult in Jesus to move on. So live out your life in the beauty of this world and behold a glorious future in God.

So a difficult childhood is no longer a precursor to a difficult adulthood. Memories are your stepping-stones to a brighter future allowing you to arrive on time to the glorious life God has promised you. Free yourself from your past by letting it go on purpose, not by chance; just release it and never look back again.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-2

Amplified Bible (AMP)

To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter orpurpose under heaven:

2 A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up what is planted,

1 Corinthians 13:11

Amplified Bible (AMP)

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; now that I have become a man, I am done with childish ways and have put them aside.
much love…

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