This is dedicated to my New Friend Mary Rogers
I want to ask you all a question and then I will answer it for you. This will help you see both sides of forgiveness.
Question: You have an exquisite teacup. The finest that money could buy considering that it has a very fine crack in it. It has a crack so fine that you really cannot see it with the naked eye. You tried using it but to no avail–it continues to leak all of its contents out, but it’s so pretty and you feel so good using it. If you drink it quickly you can barely notice that it’s leaking. Then you are all gassy from drinking it so fast and you can’t enjoy the taste of your expensive tea. The problem only arises when you have your finest silk dress on and everyone notices the spots on the dress from where it leaked. My question is why would someone invest so much in a broken cup and continue to use it like it’s not broken? And why do you have such high expectations for a broken cup…?
Answer: People in general are broken like the fine teacup. All of us have various degrees of brokenness, every single one of us.
Amplified Bible (AMP) Since all have sinned and are falling short of the honor and glory which God bestows and receives.
Yet, we ignore their brokenness when we deal with them. The only perfect person is Jesus who you can trust to hold all your precious dreams, love, purposes, and etc.… We all have varying degrees of brokenness; we just choose to ignore our own and judge others for theirs.
I told my children at a very young age that I was not a perfect mom and if I were a perfect mom then I would be their Jesus. And if I was Jesus I would be their God and I am incapable at my best to be their God. Besides, God was not going to have that. So, I am an imperfect mom, deal with it. Sounds cruel, but this is life and we have to deal with life. This brought their expectations for a perfect childhood to a real childhood that would prepare them for life.
Life is beautiful! People teach us about the beauty of choices, consequences, and imperfections; how love mends us and brings the best and the worst in the brokenness of people. We have learned to see the beauty in imperfections with love.
So, when we see our own imperfections we lower the bar, rather get rid of the bar for expectations on people’s actions. Now we can love them instead of judge them and live a happier life with them.
We forgive their imperfections because we have been forgiven of our own imperfections.
Amplified Bible (AMP) And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop.
26 But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your failings and shortcomings.
But how does one forgive? If you don’t have forgiveness you can’t forgive. Example: I can’t give you a hundred dollars if I don’t have a hundred dollars. Where do I get forgiveness? God, you get forgiveness from God by expecting His forgiveness for you. God has forgiven you of all–not some, but all of your sins. What do you do with that? You accept it over and over until it becomes your way of living and loving.
Amplified Bible (AMP) To Him all the prophets testify (bear witness) that everyone who believes in Him [who adheres to, trusts in, and relies on Him, giving himself up to Him] receives forgiveness of sins through His name.
If you have been forgiven of your sins then you accept this forgiveness and pass this forgiveness onto those that have hurt you. Whatever you sow in life you will reap!
Amplified Bible (AMP) Do not be deceived and deluded and misled; God will not allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His precepts being set aside.) [He inevitably deludes himself who attempts to delude God.] For whatever a man sows, that and that only is what he will reap.
The great part about this is the more forgiveness I accept from God increases my capacity to love like God.
King James Version (KJV) Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.
Now I look for opportunities to forgive so that I can Love more like Jesus. My forgiveness is equal to my loving… YOUR FORGIVENESS IS EQUAL TO YOUR LOVING YOURSELF AND OTHERS…
GOD IS LOVE, LOVE CONQUERS AND COVERS IT ALL…